How to Know If You’re Wasting Time on the Wrong Men~
One of the most common things I hear is this: “I understand that I have to compromise on some things to be in a relationship, but how do I knowWHAT I should compromise on?”
One of the most common things I hear is this: “I understand that I have to compromise on some things to be in a relationship, but how do I knowWHAT I should compromise on?”
There have been a number of times in your past when you thought youmet the “right” man…and yet he turned out, like all the others, to be WRONG.
The entire time I was dating my wife, I wasn’t sure whether I was making the right decision.
I wanted to be sure in my heart. I wanted to feel that sense of blind confidence.
I wanted to “just know” that she was the “right” person for me.
But as you know, there have been a number of times in your past when you thought you met the “right” man…and yet he turned out, like all the others, to be WRONG.
So much for “knowing”.
To ensure that you don’t waste time on the wrong men, and learn to invest in the good ones.
It’s not easy. It doesn’t always come naturally. But it has some incredible rewards.
Which is why I want to tell you what REALLY matters in a man…
She’s questioning the meaning of her entire relationship.
Most of all, she’s questioning her own judgment, which is the hardest thing to do when you pride yourself on being intelligent and rational.
It seemed clear that she willfully ignored his selfish, narcissistic tendencies because of what came with the rest of the package – cute, smart, successful, etc.
Have you ever done the same thing? I’m betting you have. And I’m betting that you’re a lot better off without that guy than you are with him.
Which brings me to the crux of today’s post: how do you KNOW if someone is a good guy or a bad guy?
If you had EVERYTHING taken away from you – your body, your job, your whole self-definition – what would you be left with?
You’d be left with your mind. You’d be left with your heart.
You’d be left with your spirit. You’d be left with your kindness.
You’d be left with your generosity. You’d be left with your sense of humor.
Strip away your looks, your home, your career, your money and you’d be left with everything that’s on the INSIDE.
The guy who doesn’t prioritize you now is NEVER going to prioritize you.
So if someone wants to know where she went wrong in choosing her husband…
…or if you’ve struggled for years to figure out why you choose the wrong men…
Your answer is right here in front of you.
You’ve been investing in the least important qualities.
Looks come and go. Jobs come and go. Money comes and goes.
What lasts forever is CHARACTER.
I’ve already acknowledged that I’ve dated younger women, smarter women, more successful women, and so on… but I never met a BETTER woman than my wife.
That’s what I mean by character.
There are no shortage of impressive men out there who make you tingle every time you think of them – but they’re WORTHLESS if they don’t put YOU first.
So the next time you’re dating a guy, don’t get too sucked in by his charm or his wit or his looks or his money…
Instead, learn to appreciate the guy who does what he says, who says what he means, who makes it clear that you’re a priority to him.
After all, the guy who doesn't prioritize you now is NEVER going to prioritize you.
Cut him loose and choose the man who loves you for what’s INSIDE.
Because what’s inside never goes away.
What do you think? Am I just a big sap for thinking that character is a better predictor of relationship stability than chemistry?